Wat is jouw definitie van succes?
TED is een fijne bron van inspiratie in de vorm van korte films van goede sprekers. Heerlijk als je geen boekenlezer bent, of daar geen tijd voor hebt. Want de kern ideeën worden in een fijne talk aan je verteld. Even achterover zitten en goed luisteren en ik heb zo weer bergen inspiratie en motivatie. Vandaag wil ik deze talk van Alain de Botton delen. Hij spreekt in deze talk over succes en onze definitie van succes. Inspirerend om zelf eens na te denken over je eigen definitie van succes.
Een paar mooie quotes uit de talk:
“One of the interesting things about success is that we think we know what it means. A lot of the time our ideas about what it would mean to live successfully are not our own. They’re sucked in from other people. And we also suck in messages from everything from the television to advertising to marketing, etcetera. These are hugely powerful forces that define what we want and how we view ourselves. What I want to argue for is not that we should give up on our ideas of success, but that we should make sure that they are our own. We should focus in on our ideas and make sure that we own them, that we’re truly the authors of our own ambitions. Because it’s bad enough not getting what you want, but it’s even worse to have an idea of what it is you want and find out at the end of the journey that it isn’t, in fact, what you wanted all along.”
“I think it’s merely the randomness of the winning and losing process that I wanted to stress. Because the emphasis nowadays is so much on the justice of everything, and politicians always talk about justice. Now I am a firm believer in justice, I just think that it is impossible. So we should do everything we can, we should do everything we can to pursue it. But at the end of the day we should always remember that whoever is facing us, whatever has happened in their lives, there will be a strong element of the haphazard. And it’s that that I’m trying to leave room for. Because otherwise it can get quite claustrophobic.”
Wat me heel erg bijgebleven is van deze talk is zijn verklaring waarom we zo aangetrokken worden door de natuur:
“Our heroes are human heroes. That’s a very new situation. Most other societies have had, right at their center, the worship of something transcendent: a god, a spirit, a natural force, the universe, whatever it is, something else that is being worshiped. We’ve slightly lost the habit of doing that, which is, I think, why we’re particularly drawn to nature. Not for the sake of our health, though it’s often presented that way, but because it’s an escape from the human anthill. It’s an escape from our own competition, and our own dramas. And that’s why we enjoy looking at glaciers and oceans, and contemplating the Earth from outside its perimeters, etc. We like to feel in contact with something that is non-human, and that is so deeply important to us”.